Worship & Spiritual Well-being

Here we are! AlHamdulillah. Aaannnd…oops. And welcome to our once a month open halaqa. This one is about worship and spiritual well-being. We’ve just come back….(Anse Tamara pauses
for a moment to read the chat and responds) Oh, what’s up with the map in the background? It’s upside down. Actually there’s a story. We are here at Daybreak today and actually,
it’s not a very beautiful weather day today in Minnesota but it’s always a beautiful day
to be at Daybreak. It’s just kind of a lovely day here at Daybreak. And the map in the back is – what that map
is – it’s a huge map of the United States. And there are two things there. One is there’s a map in the world called the
Peters map and I really recommend it to all of you homeschooling moms because the Peters
map (they have different kinds) and they are much more realistic. One of the Peters maps is an upside down map. So, it’s like this (pointing to the upside
down map) but the words are not upside down. The words are correct on the Peters map. Now what the Peters map teaches you is how
much of the world is covered by ocean and you start to look at the land mass so differently
with the Peters map because we’re so trained to think that North is up and South is down
– that – who says? Who says that’s true? Anyway, so I’m really fascinated by the Peters
map and when we first moved to this place, we hung up the map upside down and I was kind
of thinking – are we going to keep it like that or not? We opened around Thanksgiving in 2015 here
at this location….and we’re going to do this this year as well – so if you’re in Minnesota
come and see us. If you’re in Wisconsin, come and see us. If you’re in Iowa, come and see us. The weekend after Thanksgiving we will have
a community Thanksgiving. The first year we invited a local Native American
who came to speak. This year, we have our young person (who works
here) – she is Native American and she’s organizing the whole thing. So, I’m super excited about this year. So, when he came (the first year), we had
a lovely dinner and he talked about the experience of being Native American in the United States
and especially around Thanksgiving time. Then, as we were walking out, he paused here
(this area is sort of the end of the space), and he paused here and he looked at the map
and he said, “That is a universal sign of the Earth being in distress.” And I said, “Wow! That’s it. It’s staying upside down. And not until the Earth is no longer in distress,
are we turning it right side up.” So there you go. That’s the story of the upside-down map. Let me back up a little bit so you can see
it. (giggling) Alrighty, so anyway – that’s the
story of the upside down map and hopefully you will always see it in that light now. May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala choose us to
be the true khalifas and help to right-side that map and help to really remove the distress
from the Earth – the spiritual distress and the environmental distress that the Earth
is suffering from. (Amin) Today’s talk here at Daybreak is about worship
and spiritual well-being – but I’m feeling quite chatty this morning and I want to show
you …. Guess what came in?! I’m so excited (big smile and excitement). This edition of Joy Jots really has me super
excited because it’s a 2nd edition. I have eight new chapters in here and one
of them is a….(pause and thinking)…there’s a word for it….it’s like a memorial…it’s
an essay for Anse Samira (referring to Anse Samira al-Zayid…may Allah have mercy on
her). And the other is – the second – in the introduction
I talk about my realization of my sort of state of grief – – – that when I’m in the
state of grief, I seem to write Joy Jots books. So (contemplative) alHamdulillah. And we also have – it was World Mental Health
Day the other day and (responding to the chat box) – Yes! And Laila, the first translation is out soon
and guess what the first language is: Bosnian! Laila filled my heart and Esra filled my heart
in Bosnia when they took on that project…and they took it on and they took it on and they
finished it. MashaAllah. Esra is an amazing translator. Of course, I can’t read Bosnian, but I just
know it is and there’s been amazing reviews and amazing reception in Bosnia of Joy Jots
and I’m just so excited. So, those of you who have it here – – – just
know that you have sisters in Bosnia who are reading it with you. And our lovely sisters in Bosnia – they’ve
been through so much over the past 25 years and we really hope, as Rabata, and they, our
affiliate in Bosnia is called Halka and as Halka and Rabata come together – we can create
joy in people’s homes – even as they grieve. Even as they grieve the loss of children and
husbands in the war in the 90s – still they can find joy moving forward in a relationship
with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. So thank you Esra habibty and thank you Leila
and thank you to all the Bosnian sisters and Shamsa and all of you who have really come
together to make things amazing. Shamsa, who has been such a support for this
work and done so much work to help us have a space for Halka. So, if you are in Bosnia, you go visit Leila
and Shamsa and Esra and all the rest of our lovely Bosnian sisters there. And we have a number of you on today, mashaAllah
(look at the chat box and smiling). (Answering a question) We do not have a French
edition but Kelly, if you would like to translate that or maybe you can find somebody else – they
could do that for you. I’m happy to be of assistance, if we can – although
I can’t really because I don’t – I studied French for 7 years but I don’t know it. I will be right back, okay (holding up her
finger signaling us to hold on a minute). I just have to do one thing. Okay – don’t run away! Don’t leave – – – oh – and there isn’t a Spanish one either – let’s get it going! I’ll be right back….Right back! Right back! One minute. (calling out to someone in Daybreak) – I’m coming! I’m coming! (We’re patiently waiting for Anse’s return.) (Anse Tamara calling out to us) I’m back! I’m back. Here I am. Ta da! I’m back. Sorry about that – I just had to do something in the back really quick. Okay – well here I am. Do you know it’s snowing here in Minnesota? Crazy. (smiling) Ahhh…(sigh) Alright, well today we’re talking about worship and spiritual well-being. Bismillah ir-Rahman ir-Rahim As-salaatu wa as-salaamu ‘ala khatm al-‘Anbiya Sayyidina Muhammad wa ‘ala Ashabihil-Ajma’in (In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, Most Compassionate. May peace and blessings be upon the seal of the Prophets, our liegelord Muhammad and upon all of his companions). (Responding to the chat box) Oh absolutely! Road trip to Minnesota. Not for Thanksgiving, Sofia – but after. So have Thanksgiving with your family and then come and have Thanksgiving with us and it’s going to be a really special
event. Last weekend we had our first ever ibada retreat
and (laughing – reading chat box) It’s snowing here, Ann. I told you I was in a chatty mood. I’m so distracted this morning. It’s snowing – Minnesotans are out anyway. I love Minnesotans (smiling cheerfully) Like, they’re out with their hats and their gloves, and they’re just out. That’s it. It is what it is. (Reading chat box) Ohhh, that’s a beautiful
idea Saadia. What a beautiful idea. Worship and spiritual well-being
Last weekend we had our first ever ibada retreat in a very, very beautiful place with beautiful
fall leaves in Balsam, Wisconsin. I’m going to say alHamdulillah it wasn’t scheduled
for this weekend because this weekend we have snow. It was very beautiful but I think really – it’s
very much attached to this worship and spiritual well-being topic today. Whether you were there or not – those of you
who were there, I think that – you understand what I’m about to say in a very material and
very real way. But for all of us here today, I really want
to talk about what it means to be healthy. What does it mean to have well-being and how does worship affect that? And what if you don’t feel like worshiping? What if you don’t feel like it? So those are the things we’re going to talk
about today. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)
in his year of grief – in the year that Abu Talib died, Khadijah (radiaAllahu ‘anha) died,
and during that time he was seeking out a place for the Muslims to rest – a place for
the Muslims to live. He was looking for a place for the Muslims
to be safe. And He was going from tribe to tribe. We know about Ta’if but we know he went to others asking and being rejected again and again. As he saw his Muslim brothers and sisters
suffering…it was in this year, the year of sadness, the year that Abu Talib and Khadijah died (radiaAllahu anha), that Allah Azza wa Jal Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala, gifted Rasulullah with Isra wal Mi’raj. When He gifted Rasulullah with Isra wal Mi’raj,
He gifted us with salaah, with the five prayers a day of salaah. It is really important to note that this fard
salaah came down – it was given to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) at the time
that he was preparing to move the Muslim ummah from being a small group of believers in Mecca, to creating a society of believers in Madina. I’m going to say that again so you really
hear it. When the prayer became fard, the Prophet (sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam) was moving between being the leader of a small group of believers in
Mecca to leading an entire society in Madina (sallatu wa sallamu alayh). So we note the critical role that salaah plays,
not only in our own personal life, but in the larger life of society. And – we extrapolate from that how very important it is for our own personal well-being. Salaah, our five prayers, which are ritual
prayers – is one type of worship. We have in Islam three types of worship – three
types of prayer – the English word prayer. Islam has three types of worship that are
equivalent to the term prayer in English. One of them is salaah. Salaah is ritual. This is what the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam) taught to us, this is what he gave us, this is the gift of Isra wal Mi’raj, and
this is how the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) – how the Muslims sustained and
built the Muslim society. Another is dua. Dua – calling out to Allah. Seeking God – talking to God – relying on
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. Having confidence in our dua, having confidence
in our relationship with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala and really talking and having that
(relationship) and making dua. The other is dhikr. Dhikr is the repetition of God’s name or names
or phrases of praise about Allah Azza wa Jal – or salawat – phrases of lauding to the Prophet
(sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) and greeting to our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon
him). These are the three types of worship, the
three types of prayer, excuse me. Now the term worship in Islam, has many more
branches. We have fasting, we have sadaqa, we have recitation
of Qur’an, we have works – good works and good deeds are a type of worship, being good
and kind is a type of worship. Living a life fi sabilillah is a type of worship. Working every day to support your community
is a type of worship. But today, we’re going to talk about the worship
that is contained in these three types of prayer: salaah, dua, and dhikr and how these
three types of prayer influence our spiritual well-being. And what exactly is our spiritual well-being? So, first of all, let’s all do an internal
check and see how we’re doing. How are you doing spiritually? Go inside and check. If you are struggling to pray. If you are struggling to connect in your prayer. If making dua is really difficult and it feels
like cardboard, and you really can’t find the words. If your dhikr is nervous and you can’t sit
still – then you are not healthy spiritually. So these three types of worship are also a
gauge to help us know where am I spiritually right now. How is my well-being? So – physically, we have things, right? Like if I’m extra tired, maybe there’s something
wrong. Maybe I need to get a blood test. If I am – there are symptoms of physical illness. Coughing and sneezing and pain in the joints
and pain in the body. Pain – pain is a sign – is a symptom of physical
illness. Is it a symptom of spiritual illness? I would say it is – but it’s a different kind
of pain. I would say that Yes – certain types of pain
are indicating the symptoms of spiritual illness. And just like pain in the body – brings us
to the doctor – brings us to the medicine – brings us to taking care of ourselves…..My
daughter – omg – my daughter, she fell the other day. My daughter is 28 by the way, so don’t be
too worried. She fell – she was goofin around and she fell. She fell about 8 feet – and really – alHamdulillah she’s fine – but when she was home – she really couldn’t walk. So the pain was telling us – Something is wrong and so we took her to urgent care and she had to have an x-ray and then she had to have
it x-rayed again, and bruises and concussion and all this stuff. AlHamdulillah she’s fine, she’s on crutches,
she healing. AlHamdulillah it’s not broken – but it was
the pain that told us – we’ve got to do something. And because it’s our body – when we feel pain – we do it (snaps fingers). Oh she was very lucky – she was very blessed. Hi there! How are you? I’m fine, thank you. (Steps away to speak with a customer) (On her way back) Enjoy the snow (to the customer) Okay, so. Allahumma salli ‘ala Sayyidina Muhammad….
hmmm….what was I saying….I’m coming to you from Daybreak in case you didn’t notice
there. Okay, where was I. (Looks to chat box) Pain. Talking about pain – alright, thank you Samia. So, the pain of our physical body tells us
to go to the doctor – tells us to take care – tells us to slow down. In fact, when your foot hurts, you can’t get
up and go to work. My daughter works a lot on the weekends and
goes at 5:00 in the morning to her job. She couldn’t go. She couldn’t go to work this weekend. She was forced to stay in bed and rest and
take care of herself and heal. What do we do spiritually when we have spiritual
pain? Theoretically, if we’re going to extend the
metaphor….theoretically, spiritual pain should force us to the prayer carpet. Spiritual pain should force us to the Qur’an. Spiritual pain should force us to the misbaha
– to the repetition of Allah’s name. Because that pain would help us stop, take
care, get healthy again, and move forward. Unfortunately, we are just not good at identifying
spiritual pain. We’re not good at it. We’re excellent at identifying physical pain. My mother-in-law is so funny, God bless her. I love her ever so. She’s a really wonderful, wonderful woman. My father-in-law is the kind of person who
knows what’s going on in his body. He’s like – I have a new pain in this part
of my body. And she (my mother-in-law) used to say, “My
body is a potato.” (laughing cheerfully) “I don’t know if something’s
hurting or not.” Of course, God forbid, may Allah keep her
healthy and let her never feel any pain in any way – but certainly, if there was ever
anything serious, she would feel something – because we’re all good at feeling our physical
pain – and some people are better than others. Some people are let’s say – some people are
more tolerant of physical pain than others. Or maybe they’re just not feeling it as much
– I don’t know. I think they’re more tolerant. But – what about spiritual pain? When did we lose touch with what spiritual
pain is? How do we? When did we? When did it become that we’re not able any
longer to identify, “Oh, I have some spiritual pain here – I need to pause – I need to take
care of this – I need to do some prayers – I need to do some dhikr – I need to do some
fasting or whatever – I need to get in control of this so I can keep my spiritual well-being. When was it that that happened (that we are
not longer able to identify our spiritual pain)? (looking at chat box) That’s my next question,
Sakina. That’s a great question. Now, we have developed recently, in the last
century in the West – really created a whole genre, not genre – a whole field called mental
health, mental well-being. Carl Jung connected spiritual well-being and
mental well-being. Others did not, but Carl Jung did. We went through a period of time amongst Muslim
leadership where, if people talked about mental health – a lot of my colleagues would say
things like, “Read more Qur’an – take care of your spiritual self and you’ll be fine.” And, for many people that felt like – disingenuous
and felt like not recognizing the real pain they were in – and the difficulty is they
were struggling from actual trauma that was affecting their mental health. All different kinds of trauma – Let’s say
worldly trauma. And so now we’re at a place where, most of
my colleagues, we struggle to talk about spiritual well-being for fear of stepping on the toes of
the world of therapists and psychologists and mental well-being, which is a critical
and important area of understanding. And I wonder, how do we separate it? How do we separate spiritual well-being from
emotional and mental well-being? I don’t have an absolute answer for that. What I’m going to talk about is an option,
is a suggestion, and I am open to your suggestions and I’m open to further thinking on this path. But what I would say is, when we look at the
life of Rasulullah, and especially the early Meccan stage – I think it’s important to look
at the Meccan stage for this – we see a lot of trauma. We see a lot of trauma. We see the trauma for his daughters being
rejected by their betrothed spouses – the sons of Abu Lahab. We see the trauma of abuse and oppression. Yet – we see great spiritual health in all
these same people – Khadijah (radiaAllahu anha) for example. And so, we look at that – and I think – but
yet – when the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) – when Khadijah died – – – here’s
the thing I wanted to say – when Khadijah (radiaAllahu anha) May Allah be pleased with
her and elevate her and make us all the Khadijahs of this time. When Khadijah died, we find the Prophet (sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam) – it’s said about him that Rasulullah was very sad. In fact, they worried about him because he
didn’t want to leave the house. The encouragement of a family friend for the
Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) to marry Saudah was, in part, concern for Rasulullah. So here is that sticky place – certainly the
Prophet (salllallahu alayhi wa sallam) was in perfect spiritual health. Yet he had deep grief and sadness, which we
often connect to sadness….to a place of trauma or sadness or an event that causes
sadness. (Responding to chat box) Well, hang on Ann. What I’m actually getting at here is a little
bit different. I believe that in our society today, we’ve
pathologized normal human emotions. That sadness, fear, happiness…..are normal….and
that we’re not going to always be happy. We’re going to have sad days. We’re going to have grieving days. I consider myself still grieving the loss
of Anse Samira (referring to Anse Samira al-Zayid)…and I spent a lot of weeks after her death….In
fact, after she died, like two weeks later, I got worried about myself physically. Because, a long time ago I learned always
to ask myself how my physical self is doing if I’m sleeping more than usual. And I was sleeping more than usual – and I
was like, “What’s going on? Do I need to see a doctor?” And I realized that I’m still grieving and
grieving seriously. And I realized that one of the things – the
reason I was sleeping so much is because I was hoping to see her in my dream. And, so when I recognized that, I said – Okay
– that’s okay – I’m okay to grieve. It’s not a pathology to grieve. It’s not a pathology to be sad about painful
things. I would say it’s a normal human interaction
because if the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) was grieving deeply…in a way
we could say….it’s a sunnah to feel our emotions. Now, of course, there are those emotions that
are not within the realm of health – and that is a different space. Clinical depression, things like this – postpartum
psychosis – this is a very serious illness – there are things that are hormonal that
are physical that we need help physical help with. (Responding to chat box) Pathological grief
– exactly. But we want to be careful of defining all
of our emotions as mental illness or not healthy. Because some of our emotions are necessary. And it’s somewhere in there – that we’re going
to find spiritual well-being. I think that our spiritual well-being is connected
to our mind, to our heart, to our emotions, to our soul – our very soul. We want our soul to be healthy. Our soul is knit to our body. In order to make our soul healthy. And how is our soul separated from our heart
and separated from our mind? Scholars have been talking about this for
centuries. So, we’re not going to solve that today. There’s a really good book about it though
– Marvels of the Heart – it’s translated – a book – Ghazali wrote it. It’s a wonderful book that talks about about
what’s the qalb, and what’s the ruh, and what’s the nafs? That place of spiritual well-being is somewhere
in those normal and natural emotions. It’s in the place of our ability to feel our
normal emotions, even when they’re painful. And – with that ability to feel – be able
to connect to Allah (Jalla Jalallahu). To know….to be able to Know…capital K…..to
Know God….to Know there is God….to Know that God exists….to Know that God is here…..and
to Know that Muhammad ibn Abdullah huwa Rasulullah…to Know la ilaha illAllah Muhammad ar-Rasulullah. It’s there, where there’s spiritual well-being. Spiritual well-being is connected to having
a heart that leans toward doing good and leans away from doing wrong. Spiritual well-being is connected to having
a mind that things about the blessings of Allah – that thinks about the blessings of
where we’re living (or whatever our life is like) – that thinks about the signs (ayat)
of God in the horizons in the universe (reference to ayah from the Qur’an found in Surah Fussilat
(41:53). Spiritual health is our ability to think about
what we learn through the filter of Islam – not think about Islam through the filter
of what we’re learning. Spiritual health is somewhere in there and
it is a space of great peace and contentedness and joy….absolutely and joy. So, in that little definition of peace, serenity,
contentedness, and joy – even when there’s sorrow – there’s peace. So, in my grief – I am grieving time that
in the last five years when I lived here and I wasn’t spending time with her (Anse Samira
al-Zayid). I am grieving the time that I can’t spend
with her in this world. I’m grieving these different things. Alright? But there’s peace, there’s serenity, there’s
acceptance, and there’s love, there’s no rejection of where we are. So, somewhere in there, is spiritual well-being. And it’s that spiritual well-being – that
place of deep – where the soul is satisfied. Soul-satisfying. OMG I made macaroni and cheese yesterday,
it was so good – it was almost soul satisfying. (laughter) Don’t tell anyone – I’m not supposed
to eat macaroni and cheese but it was really good. Anyway – sorry. Soul-satisfying. I mention macaroni and cheese – not only to
see if you’re listening. But also because there are certain foods – that
nostalgia of our childhood – that nostalgia of our childhood – something in our childhood
when our physical bodies and our spiritual bodies are growing – there’s something in
the nostalgia of childhood that really affects us spiritually. So there are certain foods we at that do bring
comfort. So, there’s that space – that space of spiritual
well-being – So, there’s that place of … where is my soul? It’s there that spiritual well-being is – and
the real feeding of the soul is in worship. The real feeding of the soul is in salaah,
dhikr, and dua – these prayers – and there are other worship – but let’s talk about these
three. (Responding to the chat box) Oh Raihan, I’m
so sorry you lost your mother in July. And I can’t answer to – why she in particular
had to suffer. But I will say that death is like birth. In birth, the mother suffers a lot to give
birth to that child. A lot. And that process of birth is painful but brings
that baby into a new existence. The process of death is often also painful
as well – and brings our soul into a new existence. When a mother is giving birth – she is at
the end of birth as though she is with a clean slate – as though she went on Hajj. And the one who suffers patiently before she
dies – is getting rid of sin – is getting rid of mistakes. One of my teachers who died a number of years
ago. She died of stomach cancer – a very, very
painful cancer. I wasn’t with her when she died – but they
talked about her – how her face was just glowing with light. So – birth is painful and death is painful. This is part of the reality of this world. (Responding to chat box) The title is Worship
& Spiritual Well-being, correct. (Responding to chat box) I’m sorry Aisha because
I missed your message about how you felt when your parents passed. May Allah reward them and grant them and Raihan,
your mother, and all those who have people that we’re missing who passed before us, Jannat
al-Firdaus. InshaAllah we’ll meet them again in Jannah. And so, this issue – this life, this place
of spiritual well-being is what we want to be. So, how do we get there? We get there through worship. (Hypothetical response) “Oh, I don’t like
to worship – I don’t want to worship. It’s hard.” This is where we go back to our metaphor – because
when you break your leg – it’s hard to walk – so you rest. With spiritual illness, it becomes hard to
do what we need to do. So we need – we need – our prayer….and you
go to stand to pray and you’re not feeling it – or you’re shy in front of people – or
you don’t have wudhu and you’re shy to make wudhu – or something happens and so you start
missing furud prayers. You miss furud prayers and Shaytaan comes
in and in and in and in and in – and you find yourself so distant you start to say – do
I really need to pray? Ah, SubhanAllah Shamsa, so true (in response
to chat box). Yeah – that’s true – people with broken legs
need to push and do physical therapy – push themselves to walk again. My mother had knee surgery and she had to
go to a place to recover to do physical therapy for two weeks. And Amanda, it’s hard and it’s painful – but
you have to do it. Worship – we have this image that worship
should be fun – worship should be amazing – and sometimes, it can be. And it’s nice to do it in groups because you
get energy from the group as we got last weekend all together in Wisconsin. (inaudible for a few seconds – audio skipped)
May Allah forgive me first for my own inconsistencies. (responding to chat box) and in Tampa, yes,
we had such a beautiful prayer in Tampa. Yeah. And so, we need a plan. We need a plan to fix our worship so that
we have spiritual well-being. Because that’s the key. If you want spiritual well-being, I can’t
give you a pill. I can’t give you a Naproxen so that you can
cover up your pain. I can’t give you antibiotics. The antibiotics and the Naproxen and all those
drugs are found in your furud prayers. They’re found in your Sunnah prayers. They’re found in Tahajjud prayers. They’re found in Duha (the mid-morning prayer
and Awabin (the penitent – the people who go back to Allah – return to Allah through
repentance). They are found in turning to Allah and making
dua. Ya Allah help me! Ya Allah save me! Ya Allah forgive me! Ya Allah forgive me! Excuse me (sips a drink). They’re found in dhikr – just quiet remembrance
of Allah. (sitting with eyes closed – peacefully) It
needs to be regular. So who is seeking spiritual well-being – you
need a plan. We, I, us, we need a plan for our prayer to
be regular, for our Tahajjud to be regular, and long and if we are only doing two rakats,
try to do more. Read from the Qur’an – open your horizons. Ya Allah, forgive us! Let us – when we get up to go to the bathroom
– we want to pray. That’s for all you ladies over 45 (laughing). Let us be the ones who – (answering a question
from the chat box) You can hold it – but what I do – is I have a music stand and I put a
large Qur’an on it and read from there – and I love this so much. (answering a question) that is completely
acceptable in the Shafi’i madhhab and I love it. It gives you new Qur’an all the time and it
helps you with your review. (answering) It’s okay. But if you’re going up and down where are
you going to put it? So you need to be respectful. So maybe on the table instead of down – going
on up. AlHamdulillah. That’s good. So, we need to make a plan. So, here’s our plan. We want to focus on that morning time. Let’s get that morning time in – let’s get
that hour Tahajjud in before Fajr. Let’s get an hour of worship in after Fajr. There you’ve got two hours of worship in your
day. Two hours. Add to that your furud prayers and your Sunnah
prayers – that makes three hours. Three hours of your day are worship. Now, you’re headed toward spiritual well-being. Just like you have to eat food. There’s a dispute now that you have to have
three meals a day because people have intermittent fasting and all that. But we know we have to eat and we know we
have to drink. In the same way, these three hours become
your liquid. They become the water of the spirit, the food
of the spirit – what you need to achieve spiritual well-being. And if that’s too much to think about – start
with half an hour – start with five minutes – wallahi – start wherever you can start – but
don’t sit back and say it’s not fair that I don’t have spiritual well-being, the map
has been drawn. We said in our Aqida class that one of the
reasons that Imam Ghazali is called the proof of Islam is because he created a replicable
experiment. In his Ihya’ ‘ulum al-din, he has all the
things you need to do – I mean the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said
these things but he talks about their spiritual manifestations. So if you make wudhu, and you pray, and you
pray tahajjud – there are things in this religion that if you do – whoever you are – it’s a
replicable experiment. You will become of the believers, you will
become of the Muhsinin, you will become of the Awliya, you will become of those who go
to Jannah. It’s a replicable experiment forever and the
map is drawn. There’s no confusion. There should be no confusion. We all know. If I do these things, I’m going to have spiritual
well-being. If I don’t – I won’t. So we need to stop whining about our feeling
of emptiness. Get up! Do what we need to do. Get moving. It’s okay to have a pity party for like – ten
minutes. Go make yourself a cup of tea. Sit down, have a little pity party, poor me
woe woe woe – set the timer for the pity party. Set the timer. When the timer goes off – I’m done. Get up. Get some work done. See what you can do to improve your situation. Do it for Allah. (Responding to chat box while laughing) Yeah,
that’s my favorite. Oh my gosh, this morning, somebody gave me
some coffee. It wasn’t a gift – it was some leftover coffee
from somewhere. And I took it, because I was like – okay – I
thought – I’ll drink this first because it’s ground and generally ground coffee is not
very good because it’s old. It was horrible (making a face). It was a horrible coffee this morning. I was like (gagging sound) what is this coffee. It’s almost worse than instant (makes face)
it’s horrible. (responding to chat box) So, yes Saima. Make some good coffee – my favorite being
Treeline Coffee right now. (laughing) or tea or anything. We all need spiritual well-being. We all need it desperately and that’s how
we’re really going to survive this world – is spiritual well-being. Seek spiritual well-being in worship. In worship, in prayers, in your Tahajjud,
in your dhikr. When you’re menstruating – sit and remember
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala. Don’t give it up. Don’t become of the ghafilin (people who don’t
remember Allah at all). AlHamdulillah. InshaAllah this Saturday morning will be the
beginning – this is October 12th – inshaAllah will be the beginning of three weeks of great
spiritual well-being and spiritual joy from our worship and our attitude. Let’s be positive. Let’s have a positive attitude. Three weeks – a month – until we meet next
month. InshaAllah when you come back next month to
the open halaqa, you’ll come with the joy that comes from regular prayer, from regular
ibada, from regular worship of Allah Azza wa Jal. AlHamdulillah (wiping face with hands). Allahumma salli wa sallim wa baarik ‘ala Sayyidina
Muhammad. (O Allah! Exalt, greet and bless our master and liegelord
Muhammad). Ya Allah make us regular in our Tahajjud,
and regular in our recitation of Qur’an, and regular in our prayers, regular in our Sunnah
prayers, let us be people of great ‘ibada and spiritual well-being and spiritual joy. Allahumma salli wa sallim wa baarik ‘ala Sayyidina
Muhammad. (wipes face with hands and blows a kiss) Thank you for coming on this morning and joining
me. It’s great having a morning with you all. (Responding to chat box)
Come down to Daybreak. Come for Thanksgiving. Come for the literary conference. What?! What?! The literary conference – oh look at that! I was just going to say – give me the ad – 5th
Annual Muslim Women’s Literary Conference right here in Minnesota at Hamlin University. Get down over here – it’s coming up. Look at that date. What is that date? November 9th. Guess what date that is…it’s the day after
my birthday. Come on over and we’ll have cake together
cause hashtag #MuslimsLoveCake. So register at that bitly link and come on
down. Let’s have a literary conference. Let’s give rise to women’s voices – even if
you just blog – even if you just write on Facebook – even if you just write on Twitter. You need to come to this literary conference. I look forward to seeing you there. Uh, also Pieces – – – Pieces is our novel
about mental health. (responding to chat) Yes – a tea party – we’ll
give you tea (smiling and laughing). Pieces is our novel about mental health – it’s
so great. I’ve got to show you. You’ve got to order this book. (Anse Tamara off looking for the book) Daybreak.Rabata.org
Look at this – it’s so great. Can I read you a piece of it? I don’t know if I should – I don’t wanna – there
are so many spoilers. I don’t want to do a spoiler. This is really good writing. (flipping through pages of the book, Pieces)
I don’t know what to read from. I don’t want to spoil the – ahhh….lots of
drama going on here. (responding to the chat box) No, I’m sorry. It’s not online. It’s only here at Hamlin University. Daybreak.Rabata.org And then, Ribaat, if you haven’t already registered
– that’s it – this is it – late registration is still open but it’s just open for a couple
more days and that will be it. So, if you’ve been thinking about it – jump
in. Jump in. I’m teaching Companions but unfortunately
that class is closed because we have no more books. The book recommendation is Pieces (singing
the title). And next semester will be in January, I believe. So, you can register at the end of December
or the beginning of January – a little bit after the New Year – after Christmas – something
like that. (Looking at chat box and responding) And I’m
teaching Fast and Friendly Fiqh on Sunday mornings – you can jump into that class. That’s a super fun one (laughing). Afshan Malik is the author of Pieces – ta
da (sing songy). Right?! How exciting is that?! Right now I’m teaching Fast and Friendly Fiqh
and I’m teaching Fiqh As-Shafi’i, which is very serious (serious face). Fast and Friendly Fiqh – I’m on a mission
to make it fun and super fast and super simple. And then I teach ‘Aqida, which we are doing
a beautiful book now and then I decided – I probably shouldn’t announce this…hmmm……’Aqida
is about belief systems – our belief system and then I’m also teaching Companions on Monday
– so I’m teaching four classes for Ribaat this term. Woohoo….and loving every minute of it. It doesn’t matter how tired I am. It doesn’t matter how I feel. Once I’m done teaching class, I always feel
better. Love it. (Reading the chat box and smiling) I love
you too. I love you all so much. Have a wonderful day. (Answering chat box) Yes. We do publish books. Daybreak Press publishes books. Pieces is our book! We published it! Look at this (showing the Daybreak Press logo
on the back of the Pieces book) Tada! And. And….here….look at this, I’ve gotta show
you this. (Anse Tamara carries her laptop to the wall
of books in Daybreak to show the books they’ve published so far) This is our wall of published
books. Look. Crowning Venture by Saadia Mian …oops, here
we go. And then Kan Ya Ma Kan – we have a picture
of our author here (Rahmatulla alayha). And here we have Sophia’s Journal, An Aquaintance
ta da da da (singing). Drummer Girl! And Brewing Storms – Pieces (singing the titles),
Sirat Nabi (The Prophetic Narrative) (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) AND newly out, (panning
over to Joy Jots) you know this one, and you know me. (smiling) Alright, that’s it. Enough goofin around. I’ve got work to do. Allahumma salli wa sallim wa baarak ‘ala Sayyidina
Muhammad And soon….(looking at chat box) Khaltoun
is that Minnesota, Khaltoun? You said Allahumma baarik and you say that
a lot so I think it’s Minnesota Khaltoun. Yes. Guess what?! Soon, we are – Khaltoun is our lovely Minnesota
author and soon we’re going to have a book signing here at Daybreak Press with her new
book. What’s your new book called? Khaltoun? Intentionally Rising. Intentionally Rising – it’s a beautiful book. And we are going to be selling it here and
we’re going to have a book signing. So, you should drive in for that – keep driving
in and driving in and driving in to Minnesota for all of our cool events. (laughing) Yes – we’re super excited. (Talking to a customer) Hi there. I’m so sorry. We’re no longer a USPS – We’re not a UPS drop-off
anymore. Sorry. Yeah, that’s okay. Have a great day. (responding to questions from the chat box)
Yes. So come through. We’re so excited. We’ve assigned that project to one of our
young, new employees and she’s going to be getting in touch with you to make it happen. And of course, we’re going to have cake because
– why are we going to have cake everyone? Because hashtag #MuslimsLoveCake (nodding
yes and laughing). (Laughter continuing)
(Responding to questions from chat box) For chapters and satellites you’d have to talk
to our lovely, Maha, who is in charge of building chapters and things like that (claps). Lovely. Alright, everybody – y’all have a beautiful
day and thanks for joining me on this lovely, snowy, cold Minnesota morning – and I had
a wonderful time with you. May Allah bless you and we’ll see you in a
month. Okay?! And we’ll see you in a month – here – but
before that we’re going to see you in all sorts of different places, including my classes,
including the literary conference, and including in the pages of our books. (blowing kisses) As Salaamu ‘Alaykum.

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