How To Be Sarcastic WITHOUT Being A Jerk


Sarcasm is one of the toughest types of humor to pull off. When executed improperly, it can leave people
angry at you as often as it leaves them laughing. So in this video, we are going to take a look at the
king of sarcasm, Ryan Reynolds, a.k.a. Deadpool. What the hell’s your name? Ray Vance. Come here. Alright, Stevie Wonder, what’s your superpower? Kid: Shoot lasers eyes out of my eyes.
Deadpool: That’s the stupidest *** superpower I’ve ever heard. You’re not on the team. I’m kidding, you’re on the team.
You’re not on the team. Get back over there and sit down. So how do you use sarcasm without leaving people angry or hurt? Well, if you’re going to do it it cannot be a one-off potshot;
otherwise, it feels like a pointed attack. So getting in the habit of joking all the time even in semi serious moments helps signal to others that your statements are usually to be taken in jest. Now, I talked about this at length in our video on Chris Pratt so I won’t go too far here — I’ll leave a link in the description — but here’s a quick example of taking a serious question about who Deadpool is and making it much more absurd. …that, I think, they see that the world is ready for something different. No matter what the rating is though, babies will love this. Of course, there are times when you’re going to give an honest answer so that people can actually get helpful responses but there’s still an opportunity to crack a joke afterwards. Watch in this next clip how we get the real answer, then a joke, and then a heightened version of the joke which is a classic comedic technique. “Is Ryan Reynolds missing a tooth?” What do you… No, these are all my teeth. What the hell’s going on here? Ryan Reynolds is missing a lot of things but— [Laughs] Let’s get this calf and put this out too while we’re at it. Deadpool’s sense of humor is really just an extreme version of Ryan’s. So here is that principle taken to the extreme. Now, for context in the next scene, Wade Wilson can’t sleep because
he’s worried about his terminal cancer and this is what he says. Wade’s Girlfriend: Hey, what’s going on? Hey. Sorry. Liam Neeson nightmare. I dreamt I kidnapped his daughter which just wasn’t happening. This irreverence and refusal to be serious for too long is common to most comedians and you’re gonna see it in almost all of our other breakdowns on funny personalities. But one bit that is a signature of Ryan Reynolds’s style is its specificity. Watch these next clips for examples. Fallon: What did you play when your wife is in labor? I jammed a little Marvin Gaye’s Let’s Get it on. [Audience Laughs] Fallon: How did that go? It was like steak knives came out of her eyes. …but they both sobbed hysterically when I’m in this car maker. So it’s very traumatizing to them so I they’ll be re-enacting most of those episodes with crude sock puppets and a therapist. Guy: Okay, perfect.
Ryan: Yeah. Yeah but the thing is this is back when, like, the internet was made of a fax machine of wood— [Audience Laughs] All of those jokes could have been told easily in
a less funny way if they were just less specific. For instance, he could have just said staring daggers
at me instead of, “Steak knives came out of her eyes.” But the generic version misses the humor that comes from hyper-specificity. Crazy as it sounds, just getting specific will turn your lame jokes into laser-guided homing pigeons of hilarity. See what I did there? Now, and since Deadpool is just an exaggeration of Ryan’s day-to-day sense of humor, we see the same ultra specific principle used to create comedy in the movie. Let’s not forget naked tandem base-jumping with the WNBA’s Sacramento Monarchs. Now in a real world without a script, this level of specificity can’t possibly be planned. So you have to get used to just throwing random sequences of words together and seeing what comes out and you will not always have the right combination So you’re gonna blurt out all kinds of random things and for an example of that, just watch how Ryan riffed when he was shooting Deadpool. You’re gonna leave me all alone here with christianmingle.com? Leave me all alone here with Kevin Sorbo? You’re gonna leave me here all alone with Nikki Sixx? Leave me all alone here with Busta Rhymes? Leave me all alone here with Henry Winkler? You’re gonna leave me all alone here with, “Hey, you guys.” You’re gonna leave me all alone here with Criss Angel Mindfreak? And when you throw this much volume of humor out,
sometimes you hit the nail on the head. You’re gonna leave me alone here with less angry Rosie O’Donnell? Ryan: Sorry, Gina.
Gina: Mot****. Not everything Ryan said there was hilarious and that last one was even a little bit upsetting for Gina Carano but that is the price that you pay for letting your brain just free-associate and blurt things out and it’s really the
only way to tap into the style of humor in your own life. You have to get used to lowering the filter on what you say and letting duds come out sometimes in order to build a
stronger sense of intuition of what is going to be funny. Now, that said, the filter isn’t dropped completely because there are a few guidelines that Ryan almost always follows in order to make sure that his sarcasm doesn’t wind up just hurting
people’s feelings like this other type of sarcasm might. I am a fan. I just can’t wrap my head around you even while watching The Proposal. I just be watching and just being like, “F** this guy.” [Audience Laughs] You know I thought that when I saw Green Lantern. [Audience Laughs] So what are the actual filters that Ryan uses when he’s using sarcastic humor? Well, first, he almost always makes himself the
butt of those sarcastic comments. Just take a look. Question — why such a cu**? I’m kidding. That’s totally… that’s the second question. Let’s skip that. Let’s get to the heart of the matter now. Why can’t you be like other actors? Good ones. Speed round. Which stage were you always good with the ladies?
Do you always have game? What would you like as a kid? I wha… No! Not really. I mean, until I was like 18, I looked like a Vietnamese girl. Second, even when Ryan’s jokes appear to criticize other people, the subtext of the joke is often that he’s the stodgy old man who’s angry for a bad reason. So really, he’s teasing himself like in these clips. …eat your brain alive for a month, like, these little highschool pricks. You could shove your Nae Nae song up your asses. Hey, wait, calm down, now. Does anyone else knew assisting jiggling like this? This is ridi— No, no, no. Don’t touch it. Don’t you touch it! Third, when Ryan does make someone else the butt of a joke, he usually teases their strengths or something that would be totally absurd so that there’s no reason for them to get upset about it. There’s a certain height at which you can’t really be a movie star, right? Uh, I don’t know. I know some that are huge movie stars that are under 4 feet. Actually, under 4 feet. Oh, yeah, yeah. George Clooney? Under, uh, 4… I have one friend that always like, “My daughter is quoting Chekov and she’s two,” and I was like, “Your daughter is an asshole.” Follow these very simple filters, you can use all of the sarcasm that your little heart desires without worrying about leaving people upset. Now, you might be thinking though, “Wait a second, Deadpool doesn’t do any of this. In fact, many of the jokes the Deadpool makes
are very much at the expense of other people.” Screw please. Here? Now? Just kidding. I know it’s been decades. You’d be surprised. Pretty grossed out. Mr. Wilson. How can I help you? Besides luring children into a panel van. And this is where Ryan and Deadpool differ because even though they have very similar styles of humor, the difference is that Deadpool does not use those four filters that we just touched on. He will tease anyone even if it might come across as mean and he will go right at their potential insecurities. Now, this works because we’re the audience and we’re in a movie theater but if those types of jokes were cracked in real life they might make us laugh but we’d also think, “Man, that guy’s kind of a jerk.” So it’s a combination of letting the filter on what you say relax while keeping those few guidelines that we mentioned —
that’s how you can use sarcasm to its most excellent effect. In fact, it’s these simple guidelines like this that allow you to be spontaneous in the moment while still ensuring that you’re charismatic and not offensive. And if you do want more, we also have a simple four piece framework for making an amazing first impression on anyone every time. So if that interests you, go ahead click the link in the description and you can get a video that’s going to show you those four steps and start using them today; just drop your name on the email on the page afterwards. Also, if you want to ask me anything in the world, we’re going to have a livestream at 11 a.m. Pacific time tomorrow; that’s a chance for you to ask about this video or anything else and I’ll do it for as long as you guys enjoy it. So I hope that you enjoyed this video, I hope that you decide to subscribe to the channel because we’ve got more awesome breakdowns and talking-head style videos coming up, and I will see you in the next one.

100 Comments

  1. Quick summary of the 4 types of sarcasm used by Ryan Reynolds (but not Deadpool):
    1. Joke "all the time" (daily and often), so people know that's part of your personality, and they won't have to guess when you're being sarcastic.
    2. Lower your brain filters to add specific (random or crazy) words or phrases to your humor.
    3. Make yourself the target of your joke.
    4. When you make others the target of your joke, make it so absurd that they can't possibly be offended!

  2. More tips:
    While telling the joke be dead inside….
    Sarcasm is a joke that make sense and also funny
    Don’t sarcastic non sarcastic people or people that doesn’t know what your point is
    Roast yourself…. Yes

  3. Erick Nam <3 <3 <3

  4. 2:09 – Eric Nam?!? lmao why's he there

  5. I think chandler bing is the king of sarcasm

  6. I'm trying to learn sarcasm. I think it's going well. This week i told my sister i couldn't shop with her because my stomach was upset from drinking spoiled milk. She text me twice telling me to throw it out! WTF? else would i do with spoiled milk? Drive it to local Services Department for food stamps and a job? I wanna tell my sister that i'm letting it live in my spare bedroom until it grows feet because i believe all life forms deserve a fair chance!
    But i dunno if that's too mean.

  7. show brie Larson this

  8. Have you done a video on Norm McDonald or Conan Obrian? They’re so funny to me lol

  9. Charlie, would it be a lot of trouble to make a video on Captain America?
    Captain America needs a breakdown because he's a great leader from whom you can help us learn from.
    And as a Marvel Fan yourself, I'm sure you'll have fun making it.

  10. 00:01 I though deadpool was talking

  11. If you act like that cringe lord deadpool in real life I will never have any respect for you

  12. Gave it a like just because of the lazer pigeons joke

  13. Something to be careful about with the specific type of jokes is that looks at your target and try to know them first , some people might not get it if it's too specific .

  14. Ay 1 year anniversary of this video!

  15. Can u do a video featuring bill burr?

  16. Lowering the filter on what you say

    o.o my filter is already made of tissue, if I lower it any further ill need to carry a buzzer around to bleep myself

  17. Chandler bing is the father of Sarcasm

  18. Can you please summarize the points at the end of the videos?

    After enjoying the video, I’ve forgotten all of the points you present. This makes your video useless as a means of learning or growing.

  19. Ryan Reynolds? You said sarcasm, but I think you meant cringe

  20. I don't understand that Gina Carano one, why did she get upset? I'm not American so I kinda don't know the reference

  21. I have a very similar sense of humor and this video is helping me hone it.

  22. He looks like Sergio Ramos

  23. O I SEE ERIC NAM TOO!!

  24. Charisma on lucifer morningstar

  25. Just my nickel to the topic: don't try to be sarcastic if you're not a sarcastic person. I realize that people might be trying to be superhumans by having every kind of personality there is, especially by watching these sort of videos… no, identify who you are and improve it.

  26. My prof to this guy: are your ideas coming from movies?

    This dude: maybe

  27. ¥€$

  28. The joke at 5:11 was hilarious. I burst out laughing which is awkward since I’m at work…

  29. This isn’t really sarcasm…

  30. I thought the busta rhymes shot was funny

  31. His eyes in the thumbnail are terrifying

  32. 7.06 "how can i help you besides luring children into a panel van" Wow that cracked me up xDDDDDDDDDDD

  33. Deadpool needed an alter ego with some filters so he'd fit into normal society at the end of the day. Hence, the birth of Ryan Reynolds.

  34. Robert sheehan?

  35. Many of those examples aren't sarcasm at all :-/

  36. "My sister likes to jump up and hit her face on the ceiling fan."

    Yeah, that doesn't sound that good.

  37. Meanwhile……..On the polar opposite:

    IS THAT PERSONAL ATTACK OR SOMETHING?

  38. I'm a simple man
    I see Ryan Reynolds, I click

  39. We should have a sarcasm battle between Chandler Bing and Ryan Reynolds.

  40. #NoFilter

  41. now I want to see Ryan Reynolds face to face with Trixie Mattel.

  42. hey you are doing a great job. now can you do some drag queens?
    you can start with Trixie Mattel. She's also sarcastic and hillarious. she has lotsa fans and I'm pretty sure it's gonna blow up. thanks.

    edit:
    or you can start with Bianca Del Rio. yeah she's the one.

  43. Step 1 : be Wade

  44. I hate being sarcastic because everyone just laughs and my point is to piss them off but my friends know me too well !

  45. Why the heck will dead pool swear as a kid

  46. So how did Don Rickles make a career out of insulting people. Example: Frank Sinatra walks into the room with Rickles onstage.

    Rickles: "Sitdown Frank. Relax. Hit someone."

    Mind you, this was the first time Sinatra met Rickles. Instead of punching him (or getting Vinnie to meet him after the show with a tire iron) he laughs. They become great friends.

  47. Your videos are helping me so much with writing dialogue for my machinima. Using these videos, I have created distinct personalities and quirks all through dialogue. This stuff is awesome!

  48. so… many… self-plugs…

  49. Step 1: Be Ryan Reynolds.

  50. AM I DEADPOOL

  51. The Queen of sarcasm i no other than Aubrey Plaza

  52. Ryan is just the Canadian deadpool

  53. Hi I’m British

  54. This is useless

  55. Be a jerk allow others to be jerks

  56. Chandler Bing is the King of Sarcasm, Ryan Reynolds is Second best.

  57. Chandler from Friends is the king of sarcasm

  58. or we could also say that Ryan’s interviews are just a subdued version of Deadpool’s sense of humour

  59. Or you could set Chandler Bing as ya role model

  60. sarcasm is why i don’t have any friends and also why i do ..

  61. Bring in the Chan Chan man!

  62. I would actually love it if you did a video on that viner Arthur (the angry British guy) because he somehow manages to act angry and intimidating and imitate toxic masculinity—but it's absolutely non threatening and funny. ("Is your daughter being a little shit? Shout at her, that'll scare her–DON'T BE NAUGHTY!" his toddler laughs adorably at him written, he's a jerk. In video, not so )

  63. I'm midway through a huge marathon of your videos. You're one of 4 channels I frequently watch (daily) and also IMMEDIATELY hit the LIKE button before even watching the videos. And I can tell from your application of body language, word choice and content that you practice what you preach. Which makes it [seem] all the more valuable. Thanks!

  64. How to get rid of anxiety: "Be kind to yourself."
    How to tell sarcastic jokes: "Tease yourself."
    Me: Hmmmm….

  65. So basically I just have to leave all my social standards and let my brain take over and say random words, preferably about myself, as if I was a dwarf. I don't know where that last part came from.

  66. What if i'm tryna be a jerk?

  67. I hate sarcasm! I feel like people always want to be sarcastic as if their life were a sitcom.

  68. Wow, this video really nails the concept of sarcasm.. That's what I needed, thanks guys..

    See, that's how you use sarcasm..

  69. When ever I'm being sarcastic my sister or friends ask me if I was tryna make a joke 😂

  70. Wait, we have all forgotten the real king of sarcasm,……….RDJ.

  71. Britain disliked this video, but loves Ryan Reynolds… how can you do this? Tho, we also pretty much just joke all the time, so yeah

  72. My filter, for keeping things light and humorous when and where needed is to joke "often" – not all the time. People know that I have a sense of humor, but I also know when to "dial it in" and be serious too. That's the differential for me. As a 911 Operator, people know I do have a serious side, but I have a lighter side too. If people know that you joke around on a regular basis, but also know when its time to be serious – this has a two fold benefit. First, it lets people know that you do have a serious, "business side" to your personality. Second, it also lets people know that I have a sense of humor too. Its important to have both sides of that. But when you do let your humorous side out, follow steps 2-4 and you will have nothing to worry about.

  73. I used to have a superiority complex but then I realised I'm better than that

  74. 666k views

  75. 3:20 Wow, I never expected to see someone point out how my humour works in a video

  76. Ryan is so hot. I can't!

  77. Being sarcastic, step one: be British

  78. Sarcasm is pretty much everything that is wrong with England

  79. One thing people miss ON PURPOSE to explain is:
    Sarcasm requires intelligence .
    It can not be learned. Its a trait of people who are "past it" You have to understand the irrelevance of miniscule and are using it to subtly ridicule itself.
    Its pretty much Science jokes regular people understand. They have a deeper meaning but even on surface they are amusing and provocative. But they are multi layered.
    Why Ryan had trouble to Push the line at the table there was because of one more thing: Setup
    Sarcasm is an exposition of intelligence and mind sharpness. Its a momentary response to a situation including alot of knowledge and correlation to dish out sarcasm in moments notice.
    It's basically a display of Owning the situation.
    So when He was forced to do it out of context ,over and over again ,the brain actually looped on itself and said : "Wait why are we doing this again?"
    People actually get offended by being said to that they cant be sarcastic if they aren't "gifted" and as violin You can still play it, but rarely you can Own it.
    But realistically if you take into account what makes sarcasm effective or not its:
    What words to use, what tone to use, how offensive will you go, who do you target with it, did the situation set itself or did you setup the situation for it, reading WHEN, How and most importantly How much?
    These all require quite alot of wits to get in 1 moment so that's why its a feat more than a fluke.
    People like to think its Hulk throwing a car randomly and killing the bad guy,where in all reality is more like Tony Stark Exploding the Virtual structure picking whats good removing whats unnecessary,connecting bits, applying know how than smashing it back to marble size and using it.

  80. I'd love Russell​ brands humour broken down

  81. Ryan Reynolds: the king of sarcasm
    Robert Downey Jr: the god of sarcasm

  82. After watching the video —

    Boss: wtf are you doing
    Me: I'm a complete utter waste of space

  83. 0:18 Man, I wish I could shoot laser eyes out of my eyes

  84. Aye soo for once I'm. Doing things right

  85. I agree, Ryan Reynolds' sarcasm is epic, but how could not atleast mention Chandler Bing???

  86. I love how Americans have to learn sarcasm from videos whereas the British are just born with it

  87. Thanks! a lot of help with your tips.

  88. 1st pre requisiste for being awesomely sarcastic:
    Be Canadian
    Examples:
    Chandler Bing/Mathew Perry
    Ryan Renolds
    Love both i prefer Ms.Chanandler Bong though!

  89. The king of sarcasm is Chandler.

  90. Chandler Bing is still funnier!!

  91. Craig Ferguson?

  92. Richard Ayoade?

  93. deadpool is king of sarcasm
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    Chandler bing is the God father of sarcasm

  94. There is this very fine line that Ryan walks on. Gotta give him credit. He have to avoid getting predictable in specificity and can't be deadpool in real life and make jokes on the expense of others.

  95. I don’t find his humour funny

  96. The price you pay is getting punched on the face by Gina I will be blessed if that happened to me

  97. Could I BE more sarcastic?

  98. How did we go from sarcasm to humor…not everyone uses sarcasm to be funny

  99. No, the king of sarcasm is chandler

  100. actually I'm sure dead pool is the biggest sarcastic jerk

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