How To Be Bold And Confident [Simple Exercise]

– Today I’m sharing with
you a coaching secret. It’s a special, invisible, powerful loop that exists in our lives
and if you learn to use it, it will simply make you unstoppable. And in case you haven’t
met, I’m Susie Moore I’m an entrepreneur and
a life coaching columnist and I write for some of the
world’s biggest media outlets on the topic of confidence. I’m so glad that you’re here. If you haven’t already, please
hit the subscribe button to be notified of each and every time I upload a new video for you. Today I want to chat with you about how to be more bold and
more confident in your life. And three things in particular that will really help
get you there quickly. After years of working as a coach, here is one thing I know for sure. It’s that being a self-assured, awesome person starts within. The first point is that
nobody is a born superhero when it comes to confidence. Confidence is a decision that you make. The most successful,
happy people aren’t born the most wealthy, the most
beautiful, the most talented. They just believe in themselves and they decide to go for what they want. They build their self-belief
first and on purpose and I’m sure as hell one of those people. And I became consciously and
willingly a confident person because what’s the alternative? No thanks. The second point is that
confidence takes practice daily. Zig Ziglar said, showering doesn’t last, that’s why you do it daily. So I consume inspirational
material every day, and if I miss a day, I notice it. I can feel it physically in my physical and emotional energy,
so I listen to podcasts, read books, read motivational blogs. External inspiration feeds
internal inspiration. And I don’t know how
anyone lives without it. Do you consume it enough? Number three, focus on your wins. It’s way too easy to
forget how far you’ve come and what you’ve done well in your life. In his best selling book
The Success Principles, author Jack Canfield discusses
a really transformational way that you can open up your
opinion about yourself. And that is simply by
reflecting on your own wins. Here’s how. Spend a moment to divide
your life into thirds. So if you’re 30, the first
thirds are ages zero to 10, 11 to 20, and 21 to 30. If you’re 45, it’s zero
to 15, 16 to 30, 31 to 45. Now write down three things
you’re most proud of achieving in each third of your life. Reflect on each of these nine things and remember how you felt at
the time of that achievement. Did most of these things scare
you before they happened? Probably Maybe you didn’t feel
capable or good enough when you did them but you did them anyway. And what was the outcome? Think of that. Let these memories fuel
your self confidence and let them remind you
that you’re way better than you think you are. Finally this loop, it’s called the confidence
competence loop. That means that when you
take action and you prove you can do something,
however small it may be, you feel more confident
in taking the next step. This in turn makes you more competent, it is a gorgeous, gorgeous cycle. If you like this video don’t forget to give it a thumbs up and hit subscribe. And let me know in the comments what your biggest takeaway is. Also head over to my
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  1. What are some of the achievements that came up for you during the exercise?

  2. Love your reminder that confidence takes daily practice! And I'm excited to do the exercise and to let those wins fuel my self confidence!!

  3. Thank you for the reminder that confidence is a decision. I choose to Go For It!!!

  4. SUCH a great video!

  5. Thank you for the reminder ! i needed this today ! 😉 have a lovely weekend !

  6. Thank you Susie!!! No such thing as too much confidence x

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