9 Easy Ways to Deal with Overprotective Parents


What if aliens kidnapped you? What if you fell into a black hole? Your parents have a lot of scary thoughts
while you’re out with your friends having fun. Hence the constant buzzing coming from your
phone. Sound familiar? Then you might have overprotective parents. Have no idea how to change the situation? Listen up! 1. Keep calm. I know you really wanted to go to that party
and now you’re heartbroken because your parents put their foot down and you’ve missed
a cool opportunity to hang out with your friends. That’s a pretty solid reason to get angry
and frustrated. But if you vent all that frustration out,
your parents won’t be impressed. You can cry, argue and slam your door forever;
still, it won’t make the situation any better. If you keep acting like a spoiled kid who
throws tantrums every time things aren’t going the way you wanted, your parents will
treat you accordingly. Wanting more freedom is natural, but you have
to learn how to express your negative feelings in a more productive and mature way. 2. Understand why they act like that. No, your parents aren’t evil creatures who
set a plan to make your life miserable, trust me. Chances are, they’re genuinely worried about
your well-being and simply want you to avoid circumstances that can get you into trouble. Realizing why they feel the need to keep tabs
on you is the first step to fixing the problem without arguing. Another reason why they might be way too controlling
is fear. But not the fear of something bad happening
to you. Some parents can’t come to terms with the
fact that their kids are growing up, simply because they’re scared their kids won’t
need them anymore. I mean, just yesterday you were a baby, and
then – bam! – you want to have friends, hobbies and explore the world on your own. But try not to forget that your parents want
some interaction too. For example, if your parents don’t let you
go to the gym because you might hurt yourself using those complicated machines, ask them
to go with you and explain how to use them. They won’t feel pushed aside, and you’ll
have it your way. Win-win! 3. Prove they can trust you. I bet that whenever your parents won’t let
you do something or go somewhere, you feel like they don’t trust you enough. In this situation, your task is to show them
you’re able to be responsible and make good choices. Do your homework and chores without prompting,
offer your help when it’s needed, always stick to your promises, and don’t forget
to give them a heads-up if you’re going to be late. Most likely, your parents will feel less anxious
about giving you more freedom since they can clearly see you’re trustworthy. And if you keep getting low grades, not prioritizing
your studies, being unreliable and stubborn about following their rules, of course they’ll
assume that you’d misbehave without their supervision. But, hey, you can still change that attitude
if you act more mature. 4. Be more independent. I know that sounds silly, because it’s actually
your main goal and your parents are pushing back against it. But just hear me out. I’m talking about things you take for granted,
thinking they’re really your parents’ responsibility. For example, your allowance. No big deal if you get it from your mom and
dad. But if you’re a teen, there’re definitely
ways for you to earn your own money. You can mow your neighbors’ lawn, babysit
their kids, or even get a real part-time job if circumstances allow. I’m sure your parents will be amazed if,
at some point, you tell them you don’t need an allowance since you have your own cash. This way, your parents will see that you know
how to take care of yourself and your needs, plus you’ll learn how to manage finances,
which is a great thing for your future. Hey, what’s the one unexpected thing you’ve
done that impressed your parents the most, and earned their respect? Let me know down in the comments! 5. Meet parents half-way. Changing your relationship with parents won’t
magically happen overnight, no matter how hard you try. If they never let you go out with friends
alone, the chances they’ll allow you to go on a weekend hike with a group are pretty
slim. You should keep in mind that it’s all about
taking little steps and making subtle changes to help your parents (and you as well) adjust. If, let’s say, your curfew is 8 pm, ask
for just 15 extra minutes. Or if they call you every hour while you’re
not at home, ask them to text you. Replying to a text is easier than explaining
over the phone that you’re ok in front of your friends all the time. And don’t forget to thank them for giving
in to your small but meaningful requests. 6. Keep them informed. Giving your parents as many details as possible
is a great way to make them stop breathing down your neck. Going with friends to the movies? Great, tell your parents which movie theatre
you chose, who’s gonna drive, and all that stuff. Offering up this information willingly, before
they ask for it, points to your maturity and understanding. You don’t want them to worry about you. If, for some reason, your parents are apprehensive
about the friends you want to spend time with, invite them to your home. The more your parents know about your circle
of friends, the better, because it’ll put all their fears to rest. After that, your parents won’t be against
the idea of you all hanging out together in public places, or at someone else’s house
for a sleepover. 7. Talk about your emotions. Talking about your emotions is probably the
most effective thing you can do to make any relationship better. There are high chances that your parents are
simply unaware of how their controlling actions affect you. So, let them know, but in a healthy way. What I mean is, don’t try to blame them or
manipulate. Just state the facts. The best way to start the talk is with “I
feel…”. It may sound like this “Mom and dad, I feel
stressed when you call me all the time when I’m out”, or “I feel lonely when you
don’t let me spend time with my friends”. This will help your parents understand why
you need the change. 8. Negotiate new rules. After you’ve talked about your feelings,
it’s a perfect time to try and ask for some changes in their strict rules. But make sure to choose the right setting
for that. If your parents work a lot, and come home
tired, doing it right after they’ve stepped inside the door isn’t your best idea. Pick a moment when they’re relaxed and calm. You can start with reminding them how good
you’ve been lately, or what you’ve achieved. No matter how small that achievement might
seem to you, as your parents, they’re gonna love to hear about it (even if they already
know). After that, tell them that you respect their
rules, but you want some small changes. And, of course, you should already have a
clear plan of those changes. Just make sure you’re not asking too much. I doubt your parents will give you the green
light to fly overseas for a week, hoping to stalk your favorite singer. If they’re unwilling to budge in any way,
then you can try to bring another trustful adult into the conversion. For example, your granny or uncle. 9. Be patient and stay positive. Here comes the toughest part. If you tried all the tips I’ve mentioned
earlier to no avail, then the best you can do is to put up with the fact that things
are the way they are. I know that’s not cool, but obviously your
parents need more time to realize you’ve actually grown up. The situation might still be the same but,
trust me, your behavior and candid conversation won’t go in vain. I bet your parents will replay your talk in
their heads, and sooner or later you’ll see some positive results. Give it a shot. Hey, if you learned something new today, then
give the video a like and share it with a friend! And here are some other videos I think you’ll
enjoy. Just click to the left or right, and stay
on the Bright Side of life!

100 Comments

  1. When you're early and don't know what to comment 😂😂
    👇

  2. First

  3. Welcome to Asia:))

  4. can You show a video study about the history of the nazca lines

  5. How does a gps works

  6. I returned a wallet to an old man at under armor

  7. Uh my parents dont see my achievements they expect too much ivr already given my best yet they wont recognize it

  8. 🤔

  9. So, good
    sir, video amazing h
    dil khus ho jata h video dekh kar
    👍👍

  10. Who else watched this cause of the photo😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  11. Yup… downloading and saving this tutorial for my kids !!!
    Thanks Brightside Chanel !!!

  12. Got good sats scores

  13. I literlly have 20 missed calls every time I go out

  14. when you are early in the video but you have no idea what to comment

  15. I shared this video to my son

  16. I recognise this one 🙂 I try not to be over-protected but times have changed.

  17. Not gonna lie these are not the best tips

  18. Today, my parents didn't let me go to the movie theater to watch Joker🙁🙁😭

  19. Love your videos…..theyre really interesting👽👻💀🌍⛰🕄⛧⛦⛤they make me more curious about the world……and keep my grades up too👍👍😎♥

  20. If u know all this about parenting then you would make a good parent

  21. me? i just follow them. because the reason why they are over protective is that they just love me so much that they want me to be always safe and protected. 🙂

  22. Im early and dunno what to say….

  23. Bob The Builder

  24. I love it that a grown man tells how he is dealing with his parents

  25. Give me a shout

  26. I found this out at a young age, my sister is still trying to figure it out

  27. Bright side please can you face reveal please grant my wish bright side

  28. Who else here to see bright side of your life???
    👍👇🤛

  29. I get my freedom tho and I do text her detail of who is with me and what place. My mom doesn't care of either me and sis spending time with friends if she knows the parents or them like I can stay inside the school for up 5 PM as long as I tell her when I'm coming back xD

  30. Well my mom is really over protective but dad says yes for every thing he doesn’t teach me the wrong or right he shows me the way

  31. What if you 24 lol

  32. Once, while I was getting off the bus, I saw the kids across from me had dropped a $5 bill on the seat. So when I had a moment, I picked it up, and ran after them. The one who dropped it was super thankful, and I overheard them say "we need more people like her" and it made me feel good about my choises. Both parents were very proud of me, and I still smile when I think about it.

  33. One thing that impressed my parents are when my brothers asked me to help them clean their room with them but they both made lies to leave but after a few hours I realized they where not comeing back to the room but I didn't stop no, kept cleaning and when I was done it was so clean but they always mess it up in a week….but they give Me a dollar evry Tim I help them clean,my parents where a little mad at my brothers though

  34. I think my mom is protective bc im the only child. One day i decided to hang out wit my friend at cafe bc tis ia my first time hanging out. Suddenly my friend cancel it but i already get redy. After 5 min or so she replied :'im at the cafe where are you". My mom was furious and didnt let me go out bc of my friend eventhough iits down my bblock. I dont know who to blame

  35. Heyy I know that probably ńobody will read this but for the person whó reading this, ít will really màke my Day!👍Have beautiful life and I wish you the best of luck ìn the future.❤️ I know fàme doesn’t happen easily but Im trying my bést to become a succéssful YouTubèr. I make a compilation of cake decorating videos ! Wish me the bestfriend of Luck and hélp my Channel reach 1K

  36. Your parents love you. This is a scary crazy world. There are many things that go on in this world that parents try to shield their kids from. Kids don't know all the horrors. Is it annoying that parents are over protective? Absolutely! Do we feel bad when you get angry at us for saying no? Yes. For the most part we do. BUT we love you so much that we would rather you be mad at us than allowing you in a scary situation. ❤️

  37. My mom always said you will understand when you become a parent. Now as a mother of 5 year old autistic twins I understand now.

  38. The only time my parents are overprotective of me is when I bring a relationship to them

  39. My dad is over-protective in a store everytime I'm getting out of people way, he always grab the back of my shirt and pulls me! I'm like i kno how to walk🙄

  40. 😂At least I’m not the only one😂

  41. Even Bright Side wants to show me the Dark Side of my life…

  42. A man who have high subscribers
    And read subscribers comment's

  43. You should do a video about what happens to like your teeth/mouth when you sleep

  44. Uwu

  45. Who else think half of the comments will be filled with

    👇(btw BRIGHT SIDE U R REALLY AWESOME U NICE KEEP GOIN👍)

  46. Thanks bright side I needed this video

  47. I fill the all water 💦bottles in fridge.. 👑

  48. Clean

  49. Who have overprotective parents

    👇👇

  50. 3:55 I earned my own money by baby sitting my neighbour's friend's son and I got 1000rs for that.💸💷💶💵💴💰💳💱💲

  51. Keep CALM?!!!?!!!!

    im always calm 😁👍

  52. Who love parents like
    ⬇️

  53. Yang di sini orang indonesia like

  54. Yg orang indo like

  55. I definitely have those types of parents

  56. None of these things will work on my parents

  57. Wait,my over too much overprotective parents won't even allow to visit a friend or to go somewhere close to my home alone😒
    They won't let me work part time.
    They won't let me go to college by my own,yes guys I am a college student but still ..
    This sucks

  58. Who is scrolling down the comments just to see,
    "How many of you are scrolling down the comments to see if it's actually relatable"?

  59. Yeah…I think these will work….that is for that…and I am also having over protected parents..
    Give a like…those who are having
    👇👇👇

  60. 1:09 Are you sure about that?

  61. Its being positive

  62. Conclusion:
    I just block them.

  63. Parents are a gift from God, they scold us because we do something wrong.

  64. fix my parents computer and laptop

  65. As a parent I was hovering over the unsub button thinking the content might encourage deceptive behavior.

    Thanks bright side for reinforcing parents!

  66. I can draw anything for them I am a artist and impress them

  67. Those marker sounds make me feel like ripping my headphones out! But I CAN'T in time.

  68. Your parents can’t get worried when you’re out with your friends if you have no friends

  69. So I'm gonna have to wait for an year for them to trust me

  70. Who else wants to know if they are make these for girls who wants a boyfriend

  71. I love this youtube channel, i am italian but i love this YouTube channel

  72. i have really smart ideas

  73. You just flew a plane, I don't think your parents are overprotective lol 😂🌟

  74. TOTALLY grow up with overprotective parents. Anyone else??
    👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼

  75. I rebelled by smoking a joint in the house

  76. What happens when u swallow toothpaste

  77. Who else here to see bright side of your life?
    👇Make it blue

  78. Elders need to realise that their children also want to spend time with someone of their age group as they also want to be with people of their age.
    Everytime telling children about do's and don'ts sometimes stops child decision making power and it may lead to a situation of disobedience.
    What if children also start to interfere in elders way of spending time with their friends ?
    Why do elders think that all the wrong is waiting for their children to happen ?

  79. You should be making tips for parents, not just kids teenagers or young adults , sometimes parents are can be over protective

  80. I was going back home 🏠 from Malaysia on the plane ✈️ thinking 💭 about bright side bcz its a ✈️ right!

  81. People at 3:45–3:47: hold up Umbrellas

    Vladimir Putin at the day of remembrance:
    No. I don’t think so.

  82. Your parents aren't overprotective; they're just good parents. In our current culture all good parents will seem overprotective to someone.

  83. I have been doing everything they mentioned in this video for many years. But after all that time there hasn't changed much. So now I just try to accept the fact that I am trapped at home for the rest of my childhood.

  84. Mom and brother: *trashes my room *
    Mom: WHY DID YOU MAKE A MESS IN YOUR ROOM!
    Me: but, you did that I just sleep over there.
    Mom: Oh and now you're being rude after you clean up you're room you're grounded for a month.
    Me: but..
    Mom: And give you phone too
    Me: cries

  85. Did an excel project

  86. I know some people who haven’t been on the internet because of their parents.

  87. Always remember this…

    It's hard to have an overprotective parents but it's more harder when your parents don't care about you.

  88. Thank you I’ll be losing this a lot more

  89. Science smarty

  90. Face reveal plz

  91. Hey

  92. I feel this a mom making this video

  93. Someone can do these just for sometimes but not always… Like wth they're always like that even if I do these or not

  94. My parents are quite the oppiset

  95. Allowance? What’s that?

    (I actually know what it means don’t take it seriously)

    I’m 12 and I don’t even get any pocket money! Lol

  96. point no.4 backfired

  97. Try having Hispanic parents 😔

  98. I am imaging the parent who sent this video to their kid to explain things…

  99. Nothing

  100. Who else is a teenager and STILL doesn’t have an allowance?

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